Silhouette parfaite, peau zéro défaut, mode de vie équilibré… les photos partagées par les influenceuses et célébrités ont de quoi nous filer des complexes ! Pourtant, le corps parfait n’existe pas et bien souvent, tout est question de pose, d’éclairage ou encore d’angle de prise de vue. 

 

Un ventre plat, un fessier bombé, des lèvres pulpeuses et une forte poitrine, à l’ère du body positive, les diktats liés au « corps idéal » ont encore la dent dure. Bien que certains magazines féminins et grands groupes tentent de mettre en avant des mannequins de différentes tailles et retouchent de moins en moins leurs photos, sur Instagram, là où le paraître prime, la réalité est toute autre. Lorsque l’on scrolle notre fil d’actualité, combien de photos de filles élancées, à la plastique de rêve et au mode de vie impeccable, posant dans un cadre paradisiaque, s’offrent à nous ? Même si on envie autant que l’on déteste ces influenceuses qui semblent mener la vie de palace, on ne peut s’empêcher de les suivre et de s’identifier à elles. Résultat ? On se crée des complexes pour un petit ventre trop proéminent, des fesses trop plates ou des lèvres trop fines. Et cela peut rapidement tourner à l’obsession, notamment auprès des plus jeunes (14-24 ans), très friands de ce genre de contenu.

 

Notre santé mentale en jeu

De nombreuses études et sondages ont en effet démontré que les réseaux sociaux les plus utilisés dans le monde à savoir Instagram en tête, Facebook, Snapchat et TikTok nuisent gravement à la santé mentale des jeunes. Ces différentes plateformes engendrent chez beaucoup un sentiment d’infériorité, de malaise voire d’anxiété impactant de ce fait notre bien-être mental et l’estime de soi. De nombreux adolescents se fixent alors de plus en plus tôt un certain « idéal » à atteindre et tentent d’y arriver par tous les moyens quitte à s’aider de substances controversées (gélules pour maigrir, protéines…) ou à recourir à la chirurgie esthétique à outrance. Un comportement dangereux qui peut s’avérer destructeur en poussant certains jeunes à tomber dans l’anorexie et/ou dans la dépression.

 

Le corps parfait n’existe pas

Pour lutter contre ce fléau, de plus en plus d’instagrammeuses osent s’afficher au naturel, sans maquillage, sans filtre embellisseur et sans contracter les abdominaux, expliquant qu’il est très facile de faire croire que son corps est parfait si l’on veille à adopter la bonne pause, le bon éclairage et le bon angle de prise de vue. Parmi elles, de nombreuses fitness girl, les mêmes qui nous délivrent leurs conseils pour muscler et afficher une silhouette zéro défaut. Et voir que ces férues de sport affichent un petit ventre après avoir mangé ou des bourrelets une fois assises et complètement relâchées, forcément, ça fait du bien au moral.

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Me 1% of the time vs. 99% of the time. And I love both photos equally. Good or bad angles don't change your worth ❤️ I recently came across an article talking about how one woman stated she refuses to accept her flaws, because she doesn't see them as flaws at all. I LOVED that because it sends such a powerful message that our belly rolls, cellulite, stretch marks are nothing to apologize for, to be ashamed of, or to be obsessed with getting rid of! As I'm getting older, I have cellulite and stretch marks that aren't going away, and I welcome them. They represent a life fully lived (for 28 years so far :)) and a healthy life and body at that. How can I be mad at my body for perfectly normal "flaws"? This body is strong, can run miles, can lift and squat and push and pull weight around, and it's happy not just because of how it looks, but because of how it feels. So when you approach your journey, I want you to remember these things: I will not punish my body I will fuel it I will challenge it AND I will love it 💗💗💗 If you're following my page, you're a part of helping me spread this message and creating this movement – thank you. #fbggirls #realstagram www.annavictoria.com/guides

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How posing changes your body 🌿 Nobody in real life naturally sits like the posed photo on the left. So we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for not looking like that 24/7. I’ve posted about how posing changes how your body looks, but I wanted to share the process so you can see how much posing really changes how you look. We’re comparing our everyday chilled bodies to poses that are carefully constructed and not how people would naturally look while sitting. You are not the negative definitions or words you tell yourself. Don’t feel insecure with how your body naturally rests, everyone looks different when they sit down and their natural fat bunches up, compared to when they’re posed, sucking in and flexing 🌿 —————————————— . . . #bodyfat #selfdoubt #forgiveyourself #positiveenergy #selfesteem #loveyourbody #iambeautiful #bodypositive

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ME / ALSO ME – Because POSING is fun but sitting COMFORTABLY is even better. Now let’s talk DIET CULTURE myths. For years, I thought if I GOT RID of my CELLULITE, I would be happy. It has always been my hang up. So I cut calories. I dropped dress sizes. I shrank. And I waited for that joy, for that feeling of confidence. It didn’t come. Not even at my smallest. None of these things made me feel BETTER about MYSELF. And now, now, years later, I am softer. Squishier. No longer starving. I weigh more. But my heart is lighter. Because here’s the thing I learned the hard way, The thing that diet ads never tell you: BODY IMAGE starts on the inside. It does. Being comfortable with your cellulite? Your stretchmarks? Your bits that wiggle and jiggle and fold here or crease there? All that requires mental work. Internal heavy lifting. Where day by day, month by month, you remind yourself how INCREDIBLE you are. And how your WORTH, your VALUE as a HUMAN, doesn’t CHANGE even when your body does. Nor does anyone else’s. So today, fight against the urge to measure WHO YOU ARE as a HUMAN against whatever is or isn’t happening with your body. Extend the same kindness to other women around you. And allow yourself the softness of a bit of self love. Because you ARE wonderful. You ARE incredible. You ARE WORTHY. Posed or relaxed, sandy or sweaty or sleepy or in any state. You’re loved. x PHOTOS @chiclebelle @gabrielleph #bodyacceptance #selflove #womenirl #cellulite #stretchmarks #normalizenormalbodies #instagramvsreality

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L’amour de soi avant tout

Quel que soit le profil de ces influenceuses, toutes souhaitent faire passer le même message : sur Instagram, nous souhaitons tous s’afficher sous notre meilleur jour, nous faisons alors attention à la manière dont nous posons et à l’image que nous renvoyons avant de poster une photo, quitte à la photoshoper. Mais ceci ne reflète pas la réalité. Nous avons toutes des complexes que l’on tente de cacher mais ces derniers ne devraient pas nous empêcher d’avoir confiance en nous et de profiter de la vie. Nous avons toutes un peu de cellulite, des petits bourrelets, le ventre qui gonfle suite à de la rétention d’eau ou à l’approche de nos menstruations et on ne devrait pas se sentir mal par rapport à ça. L’important est de se sentir bien dans son corps et d’arrêter de se soucier de ce que pensent les autres. Notre différence est notre force ! Un discours qui s’inscrit parfaitement dans le mouvement actuel du « body positive » et du girl power. Et forcément, ça nous parle !

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Girl, stop trying to make everyone happy – you’re not guacamole. A popular body positive influencer was shamed recently for wanting to lose weight. Another has been shamed for gaining it. And both openly, authentically stood by their decisions. It got me thinking: what would WE DO different if we were less afraid of BEING different. Not just with our health, our wellness goals, but with our hopes, our dreams, our LIVES? It’s easy to want to MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY. To fit in. To softly and gently bend and fold with whatever voices shout the loudest or sting the sharpest. Whether that’s a parent or a loved one or a stranger on a screen. Only in trying to PLEASE EVERYONE, we become no one. We fade. We lose ourselves. Trust me, I’ve been there. So here’s the lesson I’ve learned the hard way, and am still constantly, endlessly relearning: We will NEVER make everyone happy. We won’t. It’s impossible. Humans are complex. Our opinions are vast and varied and strong. And that’s ok. That’s WONDERFUL. What matters is that we each EXPLORE what sits INSIDE US. That we remain open to growth. To development. To being called in and learning. And that we honour, we ALWAYS honour, the truth which curls quietly inside of us. Whether it’s about how the goals we set FOR OUR BODIES or the plans we have FOR OUR LIVES. Even if it makes us different. Even when it shows how we all truly ARE different. I know it’s scary, but we can do this. You can do this. Be yourself, babygirl. No guacamole required. Influencers mentioned: @learningtobefearless @stephanie_buttermore #selflove #feminist #inspoquote #selfacceptance #normalizenormalbodies

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Mental growth isn’t meant to be comfortable🌿 Society and our own minds have a way of breaking us down and doubting ourselves. We go about life like tomorrow is guaranteed. We take our bodies for granted, fixate on our insecurities and forget simple things like appreciating our bodies for being able to experience life. I’m not saying you’re wrong for having insecurities. I want to remind you to think about them differently the next time you feel down about yourself. Working on yourself and self love can be a grueling, energy consuming process. But doing it is so much better than going through life accepting negativity and hating yourself. Rather than dwelling on the negatives, find a new way to view your negative emotions. For example, what I like to do is think of negative thoughts like this: You are not the definitions or words people have called you. You are infinitely existing, you become the words you fixate on. You define yourself by accepting words people have said about you, or others, and forming your sense of identity with these words in mind. Become aware of this process. Disconnect from negative words. Don’t allow your sense of self to depend on your negative thoughts. No matter how down you feel, this is you growing, this is you healing. Healing isn’t always as poetic and beautiful as people make it out to be. You will be able to get back up again. I promise you, you’ll look back on this time and be so proud of yourself for not giving up. You are a constant work in progress. It doesn’t matter what age or stage you are in life, you are constantly finding yourself and finding out new things about yourself. Trial and error is a part of life. Ups and downs are a part of life. People aren’t stagnant, we are ever evolving with things we learn daily. So don’t put expectations on yourself to be a certain way your whole life! You are a person. You are valid. You are amazing and capable of more than you think 🌿 —————————————— . . . #mentalhealthawareness #effyourbeautystandards #lovewhoyouare #beconfident #iambeautiful #flawsandall #bodypositive #nobodyshame

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